I've lived in Los Angeles for most of my life, I used to love it here. However, things have slowly changed, and I've decided my family will be better suited somewhere else. When I doubt my decision to move, I have to remind myself of the reasons why I'm leaving, which I've compiled below. This is in NO WAY meant to insult or offend some of you, although it might, and I have made some pretty general statements... It is merely my emotional opinion of the current state of affairs in LA and why we are moving.
This has to be most people's number 1, the unrelenting, never ending, eternally frustrating LA commute. No matter what time it is, it's 'rush hour'. Los Angeles leads the nation in congestion related delays according to Inrix Inc's scorecard. Anywhere you want to go takes at least 45 minutes with every freeway a seemingly endless ocean of glowing red brake lights. AND....It is getting worse. I'm over it! For me sitting in a car not moving is a terrible waste of time, especially when you have 3 kids in the car!
First of all, I'm amazed at how few people in LA realize the extent of the drought currently gripping California. Let's just say, it's of Biblical Proportions... Angelenos seem to think, "Hey, I turn on the tap, and there's water, what's all this ridiculous drought talk about? I gotta get my Mercedes washed and cleaned up asap!". There is also no relief in sight... County water has now been strictly rationed with gardeners only allowed to water twice a week. I've spent a year growing an organic vegetable garden that feeds my 5 person family at least 2 meals a day, which if I don't water twice a day, it LOOKS like everything is shriveled and dying. Well, now with the new rations which allow me to water twice a WEEK, everything IS shriveled and dying... Newsflash people, Los Angeles is built in a desert!! As a species that is completely reliant on water for survival, WE SHOULDN'T EVEN BE HERE!! And then of course, the water that does comes out of our taps is so full of fluoride, chlorine and other heavy metals, it's amazing to me that the FDA has approved it for human consumption, never mind the fact it has to piped in from hundreds of miles away... That means that unless you have expensive filters on your taps, you are drinking and bathing in these toxic chemicals which are then being absorbed into all your internal organs... Ugh! This also means that my animals and plants are drinking this water. I have a creek at the end of my property. It is dry. Completely bone dry. There is no fresh water here folks.
I've lived on, or near the beach in various countries for most of my life. It's a very important part of my existence. That being said, the beaches of LA feel a bit like it's freeways these days ~ over-crowded and heavily patrolled. I remember living in Costa Rica one night when my husband caught a fish. We decided to BBQ it on the beach, with a good glass of wine and my dogs running around us. The local police walked by and wished us a great night... Now if that had been Los Angeles, I would have been fined for my dogs, arrested for the fire and prosecuted for public intoxication... That being said, there are some very beautiful beaches in LA, but more often than you might think, there are beach closures due to high bacteria and pollution levels. Oh yes, and let's not talk about Fukushima and the nuclear radiation that is currently devastating the Pacific and all the beaches along the West Coast of the US and Canada... No, let's not talk about that in case the sushi-lovers get upset... The Pacific fish are so full of heavy metals, mercury especially (that super highly toxic weird liquid metal), I'm surprised they even float anymore!
Many people come to LA for the warm, sunny weather. I used to think it was the best reason to live here, as long as my air conditioning worked when I needed it. While, yes, it is sunny and warm most of the year, my opinion has dramatically changed over the years. It's not really just sunny and warm anymore, it's actually hot as HELL! It is a desert and without rain or snow there is no water. While sunny is great, being too hot renders me completely unproductive... We are indoors so much of the day trying to stay cool because its too hot outside to function. Living in snow would be better for us. At least we can bundle up and play outside and there is comfort in the warmth inside.
There really are only 2 seasons in LA ~ HOT and Cooler. Yes, a few trees change colors and loose their leaves in the fall/winter and it does get a little chilly at night. In the Spring, there are beautiful flower blossoms everywhere but because of the lack of rain they are here for a week and then shrivel up and die...
LA is the most populous city in the U.S. state of California and the second-most populous in the United States, after New York City, with a population at the 2010 United States Census of 3,792,621. The city is the focal point of the larger Los Angeles – Long Beach – Santa Ana metropolitan statistical area and Greater Los Angeles Area region, which contain 13 million and over 18 million people in Combined statistical area respectively as of 2010, making it one of the most populous metropolitan areas in the world and the second-largest in the United States.
Bottom Line... There are too many people in LA. Oh yeah, remember it's a desert and there's no water...
Wether renting or buying, houses in LA are ridiculously expensive and incredibly over-priced. Unless we over-extend ourselves financially, affording a house that is perfect for my family requires stealing from Peter to pay Paul, and putting off paying some bills just to afford the rent. Sure, the 1% doesn't have this problem, but I know most of you reading this are in the same boat I am, right? And worse, since the rent is so high, how would I ever be able to save money to buy a house here? It just doesn't make any rational sense... My new house in Oregon is twice the house for half the price!
There's a reasonably new, very visible atmospheric layer that didn't exist 50 years ago around Los Angeles. It's very evident when driving down Topanga Canyon to the San Fernando valley. We know it as SMOG, that disgusting, noxious, brown layer of poisonous pollution that sometimes blankets the whole city. Allergies and Asthma anyone?
Don't even get me started on the LAUSD, that's a whole other book, but none the less it's one of my reasons for leaving LA. The Los Angeles Public School System is quite frankly broken, the crap they choose to teach our children is quite shocking, which is why my children have been home schooled for most of their lives. They no longer teach 'how to learn', they teach what they want our children to believe, and a lot of it is completely innacurate and almost stone-age. Columbus didn't find America and invasion is not discovery, my friends... There are a few schools that are ok, like Topanga Elementary, but even with heavy parent involvement, it is still apart of, and controlled by the 'system'. They try and put all our children into the same box while not really being able to afford the resources to help them. The middle and high schools are even worse. Part of the problem is the salaries our teachers get paid average out to about $150/day, which is what a production assistant on movie sets gets paid to clear trash... If you want to give your child a good child-centered education, you need to send them to a private school. This will run you from $11,000 - $35,000 per year!
Many people flock to LA to become movie stars, famous musicians, or business CEO's, but in my opinion, Los Angeles is a city where people come to have their dreams slowly and methodically crushed (reread pt. 6 above). There is a conscious community in parts of LA but many of these people annoy me too. There are so many "yogis" who try and fit into the ideals of this ancient practice, but really, they just like the image it portrays, but they are actually materialistic and fake. Just to clarify, I'm not against yoga or true yogis, I love yoga and I am certified yoga teacher, I just don't like inauthentic people. AND don't preach health and then give your children gatorade and Oscar Meyer lunchables for school lunch...
Adios LA, we're outta here :)
Of course this is my opinion. These are my personal feelings of growing up, living and raising children in Los Angeles
Keep on joining me on my journey!
Time to pack!
Yes, we are moving AGAIN! I am more excited about this move than any other move in the past. I have wanted to move to Oregon since I first went there at 18. Every year my husband and I feel it out and every year it has seemed closer to the possibility of us moving. Last year we tried but there was no flow. So, we were able to experience one more year in beautiful Topanga Canyon on the outskirts of Los Angeles. I see why we came here for another year. We have learned so many lessons through experiences. Yet, there was apart of me this past year that was not completely content with my living situation.
Many people in my life, judge me for moving so many times. In the past 10 years, we have lived in Sherman Oaks, CA, Cape Town, South Africa, Topanga, CA, Montezuma, Costa Rica back to Topanga and now to Bend, Oregon. These people ask me questions about whether I am harming my children by moving so much. This is what I say to all of those judgements. My children are always in our decision making processes. We would never move unless all 5 of us were in agreement. There is an empowering feeling for them to be apart of the family decisions. They like to adventure and explore new places. Also, moving so much has united us as a family. We have to stick together to live and survive. All we start out having is each other. This keeps our love growing together. My 3 daughters are all friends. They play all day with respect for one another because they ultimately know that all they really have is each other. This is from moving and adventuring together. When you move so much, you let go of many unnecessary material things and you become more adaptable to change, learning to detach and to remember what is important. I believe these to be gifts for the soul.
With the state of the world, we feel that now more than ever is a time to move to a place that supports our way of life, ultimately of 'getting off the grid' as much as we can. Topanga Canyon did fulfill our desire for self-sustainability in many ways but not fully and not without a hefty price. You see because Topanga is in a very natural part of the over-populated Los Angeles, people, especially families are coming to find a community among the natural world. The windy roads of this once hippie haven is attracting more people than it can hold. Finding a home to rent is almost impossible and if you do you are going to pay an average of $4500 for a 3 bedroom house.
As I pack up my belongings to find a new way of life that I have been craving, it is bittersweet. I love Topanga, my friends, my family who is within 40 minutes from me now and the beach so close. However, where I am moving there are a many more positives than these and its time to keep exploring while my girls are young.
People from all over the world put Los Angeles on this pedestal of places to live and visit. It interests me because I grew up here I just want to be anywhere but in LA. Wherever I have travelled and lived, people change their attention on me because I am from LA. Its the film industry that has made Los Angeles out to be an ideal place to be and see beautiful people. While yes this is true, there are many beautiful people in LA, it is not what is important. I do not want my children concerning themselves with this unrealistic beauty and materialism. I just want them to find themselves through nature to be the best people that they can be.
This is my opinion. Of course there are positive parts of living in LA but for someone that grew up here, I am ready to experience a life of experiences in a healthy environment rather than living in a culture thats supports the bigger, better, more, more and more mentality with pollution swirling around the very dry desert of materialistic, image- centered people. As I pack up, I am grateful for my experiences in Los Angeles, especially my sacred Topanga where I birthed my child myself and where I have grown and blossomed to be who I am today.
Topanga will always be in my heart and here if I ever want to come back!
Heres to the next chapter in the journey though my life! Here we come Bend, Oregon!
Pictures from our trip to Oregon:
One of the most influential experiences that my family has had in our time in Costa Rica has been our experiences with turtle conservation. Turtle poaching is a huge problem here, so in parts of the country there are conservation programs where people from all over the world come to volunteer to help preserve these endangered species. The two types of turtles that we were able to see were the Olive Ridley, the smallest sea turtles and the Leatherback Sea Turtles, the largest most endangered turtles.
The job of the volunteer is to patrol the beach 24 hours a day for Mama Turtles to come out of the ocean and onto the sand where they dig a hole about a foot deep. As the mama is laying her eggs, the volunteers collect them and put them in a bag. They also measure the mama and document anything they find about her characteristics.
After the mama is finished laying her eggs, the volunteers take the bag of eggs back to the hatchery where they dig a hole, and place the eggs in it, cover it with sand and put a net around it. This way no raccoons or poachers will get in. The mama covers her hole and makes her way back into the ocean.
The eggs remain in the man-made nest for about 45 days until the turtles break the shells open and come to the surface of the sand.
There is usually around 80-120 turtles hatched per nest. After they all come to the surface, the volunteers dig up the hole to make sure there are no more left. They take 10 baby turtles and measure them and weigh them for their records.
The babies are then released from the top of the beach. They walk their little selves to the ocean where the waves will take them out to sea. They encourage them to walk themselves from the approximate distance that the mama would have made the nest. This way the babies are able to build up muscle strength in order to swim in the big ocean. At this time, the turtles build into their cellular memory the place that they were born so when it is time for the females to lay their own eggs they know where to come back to.
This experience we witnessed about a dozen times living on the beach in Montezuma, Costa Rica. What a gift that we were able to experience. A TRUE Earth Mama's journey!
For all of those who did not hear about what happened the other day, I would like to share and reflect upon what happened and all that I have learned from it, so far. My husband was missing for 24 hours. It was the scariest 24 hours of my life.
My husband decided, without telling me, to go early morning fishing. When I woke up in the morning, he was not around. I did not stress about his absence at first because I assumed he had gone fishing, as he often does. Around 8:00 a.m., our friend, Keith, arrived at our house. He looked at me whited faced and handed me Bryan's wet wallet. He said that he had found it on the rocks where they often go fishing. I became worried, and we began to search for Bryan. I went to the rocks and saw where the wallet was left. It was the same rocks where Bryan had been taken by a rogue wave a few months ago. In the prior situation, Bryan had managed to grab onto the sharp rocks instead of being taken away by the strong ocean currents. He had walked out completely scraped from head to toe, and all of his fingernails had been pulled off. But, he had made it out safely. My concern rose now as I remembered a story I recently heard about a man who, a couple of days before his wedding day, had been taken by the ocean from these same rocks. Many people have lost their lives in this area because of the strong force of the ocean. So, as you can imagine, fear crept in. I began to believe that the worst could have happened -- that the ocean had in fact taken my husband. My three girls and I searched for him for a few hours and then went home and waited, hoping he would show up. All day, I tried to solve the mystery of his disappearance while trying, amidst periodic bursts of tears, to remain strong for my girls.
The entire town of Montezuma began to search for Bryan. Bryan is so loved and respected in this community that its members believed that they were searching, not just for us, but also for themselves. They did not want to lose a good friend. As the light of day left us, the girls and I really began to worry. Then the sky began to fall with water. How could Bryan not have come home? It was dark and raining. Where was he? Since we came to Costa Rica, it had been all about the five of us. Now, without Bryan, without Daddy, we all began to cry, and scream, and cry again. I lit a candle, and the four of us sat in a circle, holding hands. I began to pray out loud for the safe return of our dearest Bryan. The girls who had felt helpless now felt calmer, and we trusted that our prayers would be answered.
In the early evening, people from all over Montezuma came to my door. Some of them brought dinner, while others came with a hug. Some came just to be with us and help me process what was happening. I had been in contact all day with a few very close friends from Los Angeles who I trust for their intuition as well as a friend who is a well- known psychic, Riz Mirza. Riz comforted me on the phone and let me know that he was strongly picking up that Bryan was alive and would return. At the same time, I had posted on my status on Facebook page a request to ask everyone to send prayers to our family for Bryan to arrive safely at home.
The outpouring of love and kind words covered my facebook page and my message box as well as my email accounts. Old friends, new friends, family from both my husband's side and mine, and strangers felt pulled to contact me, sending their prayers of hope. I was completely overwhelmed by the energy being directed at my family and me. I looked at my oldest daughter, Cassidy and told her that I actually felt calm and that I had surrendered to the power of prayer. Cassidy agreed with me. Then wonderful friends showed up to be with the girls and me. The first words out of our friend Sally's mouth was to Cassidy. Sally held her hands, looked her in the eyes and said, "Your dad is ok. Just know he will be home." We trusted Sally as we knew she was intuitive. She got her cards out and began doing a reading and continuously received messages that Bryan was safe. She gave us details of where she thought he was. She ended up being 100 percent accurate.
The following is what had happened. Bryan had gone on a walk to a waterfall as a way to clear his head after he had been fishing. After he left the waterfall he began walking home and noticed for the first time that his wallet was missing. He walked back to the waterfall to search for his wallet. When his journey back to the waterfall resulted in his not finding the wallet, he tried to walk back home only to get trapped by a rising 11 foot tide. He was unable to walk any further. He began to make a shelter under palm trees as the sky became dark and the rain began to fall, when a nice German woman came and offered him a cabin which he could spend the night. She became his angel and fed him dinner. She lived completely off the grid so that there was no way for him to contact me. When the sun came up in the early morning, Bryan began the walk back home, oblivious that a search and rescue had begun and that people had already begun fearing that he was dead. As I sat out on the patio with my morning cup of tea, I saw Bryan walking up the beach. I ran as fast as I could and gave him the biggest, most grateful hug ever. Tears were pouring out of my eyes. I looked at him and said "I am so happy you are alive. Keith found your wallet on the rocks!" He was shocked, yet happy that the wallet was not lost.
The girls went to sleep in peace from all of the loving and supportive energy directed our way and with Sally's words still bringing smiles to the girls' faces. They woke up to their Daddy's hugs and witnessed first hand the power of prayer. Our family has shifted completely with an abundance of love overpowering all of us. Our experience touched each and every person who was involved in Bryan's disappearance, and a realization occurred within all of us: to LOVE a little more because Love is ALL that matters.
As I prepared myself to leave Los Angeles and head for Costa Rica the number one question that people would ask me, is "What are you going to do about your children going to school?" I replied "they are not going to school, they will learn at home with us." I found it interesting the reaction that would come from people. My children have been to school, they have been to every type of school, academic private, alternative private, and public schools. All of them had their negatives and positives. It was never an issue of whether they could keep up academically as they are both highly intelligent or socially as they both make friends easily, instead I felt like the schools were not encouraging them to find themselves. However, for my girls, only positivity comes out of schooling them at home. We are not structured, we go with the flow but we tend to do our work in the morning. If we decide to go early morning fishing, the girls will bring their journals and math workbooks and sit on a blanket and do their work If we are at the house they do their work on an outdoor picnic table. Our days always are different which inspires my girls to want to learn.
Since I am a TRUE Earth Mama, I have wondered what the most natural form of learning is. Learning that encourages a child to be able to thrive in the world, to be well-rounded and have a worldy perspective. This is my husband and my intention in bringing our girls to a different country, with a different language, different environment, and entirely different culture than any of us have lived before. We are all learning, together.
The greatest part of our schooling is that we get to learn as a family. We have a Rosetta Stone Spanish program that we sit together as a family and learn from and then we practice the new language together. Many times while the girls are doing their seated work, we are interrupted by some sort of creature that interests us. Of course we stop what we are doing and head for the jungle. We have woken the girls in the middle of the night so they could witness a mama turtle giving birth. We have had many opportunities now to witness and take part in the release of baby turtles. We had no idea about a sea turtles reproductivity before we arrived here and have been able to witness it with our own eyes. We learn about life by living.
At the moment the girls have not met any friends. Cassidy, my 10 year old said today,"I don't even need friends here, I am just happy." My girls are always playing together formulating activities that they can all participate in. It took a few weeks of adjusting but now they are getting along so well and blossoming every single day. The bond that I see forming between my girls is a strong imprint which I see them holding sacred forever. Zoe, my middle daughter, has changed the most noticeably. She arrived here broken hearted from the loss of her puppy and she was the only one of my children still in school. Zoe has been a challenge for my husband and I. However, she has totally come into herself. She has found an independence and confidence that she did not have before. Her tantrums have turned into giggles. She is happy :-) Although Zoe really enjoyed life at school, I did not feel it was the best place for her. She would come home every day from school and have major meltdowns. She was not pleasant to be around. Being perfect all day and holding all of the different energies would cause her to come home and let go completely in whatever form that looked liked. It is so wonderful now to be able to see Zoe's sweet, loving, helpful and caring side stand out the majority of our days. Honestly, if all Zoe learns from our time in Costa Rica is to ground herself and feel good within herself than mission accomplished :)
As a mama, I want my children to grow up to be conscious, empathetic and loving girls who are confident within themselves and adaptable to the flow of life. In the school system, I saw the opposite happening to my girls. Now they are free to let their light shine in whatever way they choose and I will be by their side to help guide them. I don't know if we will continue to homeschool them throughout their entire education but at least while we are in Costa Rica they will continue to learn by LIVING!
I will let you know how it continues to go.....
Thanks for joining me on my journey!
With Love ALL Ways
I have used my dehydrator so much since I have been in Costa Rica. I kept going back and forth about whether I should bring it with and then in the end with a push from my husband, I packed it. Now almost 3 months later, we have used it to dry pineapple, apples, papayas, bananas, and the most popular FISH!
We have become pretty close with many of the locals in Montezuma. That is what is nice about a small town. When we arrived in September, it was low season so most people that where in Montezuma at the time, live here all year round. They immediately took us in like we were family. We told them that we want to learn how they live and they show us.
Fishing is a huge part of the life here, for some people it is the only food they will eat and for others it is the way they make money. The people of Montezuma (us included), watch the ocean to tell us what gifts the ocean will bring to us. When the ocean is calm, which we have found usually happens before the new moon, is a great time to dive for lobsters. The locals will rapidly get in the water, spending sometimes 3 hours swimming and diving holding, their breaths many feet below. Or when the birds feed off of the fish we know its a good place to fish. When the Jacks, (as they call them), jump through the air, we know there is a sardine run and catching a big Jack is almost a guarantee. When its low tide its easier to find the scallops and muscles. The fishing life, its a lifestyle in tune with the rhythms of the ocean.
The reason why I went and told you all of that is because some of our local friends will show up often with many fish he caught. He wants nothing in return. We have tried to give him money and he refuses to take it. It is the way here. The true locals of Costa Rica are appreciative, caring and gentle people. With all of the fish we were receiving we decided to turn it into jerky by Dehydrating it. We have been handing slices of jerky out all over town and they LOVE it! We have now created a little business.....with all of the fish we are given we dehydrate and sell it and give half the profit to the fisherman.
This got me thinking about Solar Dehydration. Back in the day what did they use to dehydrate their food... the Sun! Living in the tropics we can't just lie them out in the sun because of the bugs so I found instructions for a DIY one that is easy and simple to follow. check it out HERE.
Remember with all of this Dehydrated Food you can store them in vacuum sealed bags and store them for long term use. If you haven't read my article on Natural News about foods that you can dehydrate, check it out HERE!!
Wow! What a journey it has been to get to where I am now, but I can say it was worth every minute of discomfort. My husband and 3 daughters (10, 6 and 1) and I have moved multiple times, living in uncomfortable situations to save money. The past few months were very trying on us emotionally and physically but we had an ultimate goal in mind; to reach OUR paradise. We even lost one of our dearly beloved dogs, Brownie, only a few days before our flight. We had planned to bring her with her sister, Sushi and her mama, Gracie and our other old dog, Shine along with our favorite feline, Luna. We have had to grieve her loss as we have changed, transitioned and travelled to where we are now. We cry daily, as my 6 year old misses her painfully especially when she is trying to fall asleep at night. However, like many aspects of life, thing are easier to deal with in paradise. Grieving Brownie's loss is easier when we hear the sound of the ocean waves all day as we bask in the warm waters and visitors from all species come to great us.
We are staying on the beach in a small, bohemian town called Montezuma, in Costa Rica. We are incredibly blessed to live in a house that is a physical representation of our manifestations. We had booked another house but when we arrived there we listened to our intuitions and went in search of the house we were dreaming of. We got the "deal of the century" the realtor told us as we agreed on a significantly lower price then they were asking. It feels so good to not feel like someone is ripping you off to stay in their home which is certainly a familiar feeling from my past. I just love how the universe arranges things that come in my life to lead me to my own manifestations. My true desires. I told my husband exactly the house I wanted to live in when I first arrived in Costa Rica and now I am here! We had to meet a friend in Topanga who had a house in Montezuma so we would come here to meet his mom who introduced us to the realtor who showed and rented us the house we are living in and now we call our home in paradise! I LOVE the perfection!
One of the most exciting parts about living in the house where we are at is that there is a Turtle Conservation Hatchery on the beach next to us. The first night at this house we witnessed a mama turtle come up to the sand, dig a hole, and lay 114 eggs! The conservationists collected the eggs and put them in a hole that is protected by a fence so raccoons and poachers do not try and steal the eggs. Sea turtles are an endangered species. When they are not protected by human hands, only 5 % of the approximately 100 eggs survive. With the help of these compassionate turtle conservationists, they have a 95% survival rate! Pretty awesome! We have also had the privilege of helping several batches of baby turtles make their way back to the ocean. What a blessing to be able to share with my children! I love that in 2-4 years those babies will come back onto the same sand and lay their own babies! Sea turtles represent to me True Earth. I am grateful for the medicine from another TRUE Earth Mama that I received my first night in paradise!
I have already learned so much after being here for a week. I have developed my own sunscreen, bug repellent that is all natural which is working great to keep off the many critters who try and get me while keeping my skin nourished and protected from harmful rays of sun. I will be posting all of my recipes that I come up with soon. My goal is to make all of my own health care products and live off of the land as much as possible without including harmful chemicals, toxins, additives and preservatives of any kind. Stay tuned for stories and pictures as we continue to explore our new adventure!
Thank you for joining me on this journey!!
With Love ALL ways
When I look into the lives of everyone around me, I see the constant struggle to detach from the aspects of life that do not serve them. I see the fear or letting go and trusting the instinctive and intuitive parts within them. I used to be like this too, however I have learned to use the opportunities that arise as a direction to grow and learn from in order to let go and be happy.
I grew up being stuck in a world where it mattered what private school you went to, what car you drove, or what clothes you wore. I grew up with the idea that if you did not go to college you were never going to be anything. I grew up being taught that I was to memorize and learn information to pass a test. I was taught that doctors know best. While I am grateful for the opportunities I grew up with, I always felt like something was missing. I never seemed to be content. When I became an adult I decided to relearn how to be in my world, to listen to my self and to create a life of happiness that aligned with my TRUE spirit. Opportunities to change began to show up. Some of them were the most painful experiences of my life and some were beautiful. However, all of them changed me to shift in alignment with my TRUE self, letting go of all of the aspects of myself that were not serving me to go in a positive direction.
My years of traveling back and forth from Los Angeles to South Africa visiting Europe in between, allowed my mind to open to a new way of living. The most impacting experiences was being a witness to the poverty in South Africa that I did not even know existed. The gratitude that I would feel for my life would grow and grow every single time I would drive through the townships. Whether I had a certain kind of car or type of clothing became unimportant. As I became full of gratitude, I began to see how I was feeling happier and events and experiences around me were flowing smoother in a more peaceful manner.
When I had my third daughter at home in a planned, unassisted water birth, I felt what it truly was to let go, trust, surrender and detach. I spent many months changing the thoughts in my head so I could let go of fear and completely trust that my most natural, instinctual side would hold the space while I gave birth to my baby in the way that felt most connected to my highest self. I am completely a changed woman after that experience. It was a re-birth for myself and I have seen beautiful change in every area of my life since. This experience allowed me to learn the process of letting go of fear and anxiety while replacing those with love and acceptance which I now carry into every area in my life. I have an understanding of the power of listening to your own intuition and natural rhythms.
As I have searched for my purpose and path in this life, I have realized that the more I surrender to the source, the happier my life is and the more detached I become. Detached from expectations, detached from material things, detached from worry. I have let go and as I let go, anxiety or worrying about anything in the future goes away and I live in the Now, knowing that I will always be happy because I AM within ME.
It is strange how your mind can think it knows what is best and knows the WAY. However, only when you let go of your mind can you truly listen to your higher being. Yet your thoughts can change your reality. So, it is important then to have a clear mind, full of only positive thoughts to attract positive experiences in your life. When your spirit or higher self aligns with those positive thoughts, life around you becomes more complete. Taking care of your body and mind makes you feel good and ultimately leaves you living a positive, holistic life. This leads to happiness and attaining a life where you're living your dreams. When you get to the point of mind, body and spirit alignment, tuning into your TRUE self is easy.
If growing to be the grandest version of your self is a purpose of yours, it is important to take each opportunity that arises and to be aware of how it is a chance to learn to LET GO and DETACH in order to be FREE!
Let Go and Surrender....You will see the BEAUTY!
Happy Mind + Healthy Body = A Happy, Healthy Life!
With Love ALL ways
To READ Alex's Birth Story CLICK HERE